Parents who:
- offer their child an accepting, caring, comforting, and protecting environment,
- offer consistency, structure, and regularity of daily routine
- do things regularly as a family like going out to dinner, playing games, etc
- set reasonable and firm limits
- encourage their child to make friends,
create a well developed child with a secure sense of self, are trusting, cooperative, self reliant, helpful towards others, and feel worthy of being helped when in need.
Parents who:
- are persistently unresponsive to their child,
- are rejecting,
- persistently threaten to withhold love to control their child,
- persistently threaten abandonment,
- threaten their spouse with divorce,
- induce shame by claiming the child’s behavior is responsible for parent illness
create an environment in which the child is expected to take care of the parent(s) offer their children a deviant pathway on to which a pattern of anxious attachment develops.
